How Learning The Abc Of Parenting Can Help You Survive a Filibuster
Kuhu, where are you? Hustle, hustle and finish with your homework…. Then I have to train you for your Spell bee exam and your extempore presentation!!! C’mon make it fast , will you, honey!!!!” Ah! Well! you readers must be pondering who is Kuhu and what is all this noise about…. Well, she is my 9 year old daughter, a piece of my heart and the very reason for my existence. Children are our hearts beating outside our bodies, isn’t it? Let’s embark on a journey on the nitty gritty of parenting.
There is nothing called as a perfect parent. Parenting is a continuous process and we learn while we are at it. The path to learning the abc of parenting or basic skills of parenting is exciting and adventurous. Yet, at the same time can be scary and insecure. Well I am a professor by profession , but trust me I am learning the ways of life from my little one at every step of this wonderful journey. My endeavour is to instill in her virtues like courage and kindness which shall make her a happy and contented individual. As all that matters at the end of the road is the formula to remain happy.
Get your parenting abc right
“Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts” Khalil Gibran, The Prophet.
Having babies is a life changer as it gives you a whole new perspective of why you wake up every day. More than what you say, children observe what you do. ‘Preach what you practice’ is the new mantra of new age parenting. With the omnipresent social – media illusion, ever-changing technology and the gargantuan virtual world playing havoc in our lives, the walls between private and public space has been shattered. In this vulnerable scenario, where insecurities creep in real easy, we as parents have to shoulder huge responsibilities of keeping our children protected and honing human skills. Trust me it’s not an easy task……. At this hour, what we need to give our children is
- Roots – to stay grounded
- Wings- to fly high with their head held high.
Me, as a parent of a chirpy 9 year old, will be sharing some adorable experiences and a few tips that I guess shall help the newbie parents to make their journey more enjoyable and worthwhile.
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#1 Accelerate EQ –
IQ has always been a buzzword, but what matters more is the emotional quotient. Emotional intelligence is a very important factor in shaping a person’s personality. Managing, controlling, perceiving and understanding emotions are a herculean task. So let’s raise kids with high EQ who shall be more empathetic and balanced. This will happen only if we listen to them and trust them with things. Patience is the key to raising emotional intelligence.
#2 Spare the rod –
Gone are those days when parents used to believe in the adage ‘Spare the rod and spoil the child’.
To control the millennial generation one has to use his brain cells instead of the rod. This generation is impulsive, impatient and aggressive and at the same time is versatile and sharp. So what works for them is a perfect blend of logic and patience.
#3 Time is the best investment –
Investments should always be thought over. Children are definitely not our fixed deposits. We should not hold on to them and curb their dreams and aspirations. The only thing that we can give the next generation is time…….time to listen to their woes, time to trouble shoot their issues.
So without much ado, let us join hands to raise a generation that is more compassionate and has human skills.
Guest post by Sadhna Sudershana ,
Assistant professor KIIT